Mama told me that my wedding dress shouldn't be black: Healing your broken heart in 30 days paperback
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celebrate my newly published relationship book titled, Mama told me my wedding dress shouldn’t be black I will like to extract some passages. Please note that
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Mama told me that my wedding dress shouldn't be black: Healing your broken heart in 30 days paperback NOW available at lulu.com
You met through a
relative or in
the subway or maybe you have grown up together.
It
was love at first sight or you took your time to
make
sure that it was for ‘real’. You were smitten with each
other, you could
not
stay away from each other and when you did
you
could not wait to
be with each
other – you could
see your story along the Cinderella themes or even much
better you could
not wait to tell your great-grandchildren how you met. You were well-matched and everyone said so and then the impossible
happened – he
told you that he
is breaking
up with you. You world Shatters!
In the next days, weeks, months or even years
(now you need to
move on) you
crave and
grieve for that relationship – you are lovesick.
No one ever said that relationships are
perfect for if
they were, then
we will all be
living in fairytales. If you get into
a romantic relationship, then
expect that it will come with the good and the bad but if you believe that the relationship is of great value
to the both
of
you then it is
important to work more on the good than focusing on the bad.
Sometimes people throw in
the towel in
a valuable and significant
relationship because they had tended to
put
a focal point on each other’s
flaws. Listen, no one
is perfect and
to tell you the
truth, the ‘perfect’ you
will
definitely drive most people
to insanity so just be you and
try
to enjoy your relationship as best as
you
can. Then again,
we are
not saying show off your repellent behaviour such as picking your nose and say that’s you being yourself – hey, some things you have
to keep them between your eyes and brain. Gross!
Grief is a normal part of the process to healing but depression
is not. Depression is an
extreme level of grief where the victim feels
emptiness and sadness.
It
is always good to express how you feel and
avoid repressing it as
this might backfire. Remember, the breakup does
not
define you so do not give up on
the prosperity of loving again in
future. Do not try and
reconstruct your past relationship
with your current or
potential relationships as this will
frustrate you
and
hold you back. It is important to move on otherwise you would get stuck in the past with
life
passing you by and if you ever wake from the self-condemnation, you might live
in regret of the time
you
have wasted which you will never get back.
Deal Breaker
He dumped me on x-mas eve then the following day
I saw him with
my neibourbor’s daughter - young enough to be
his daughter.
-Gail
He made
a resolution for
the
New Year, he
was making a lot of changes
in his life and apparently I was one
of
the changes.
Thuto
He broke up with me
through Facebook, this
is what he posted
on his profile: “You need to
know
by now that I never intended
for
our relationship to be exclusive
but
that’s the feeling I’m getting from you.
Sorry you can’t tame a wild lion… Or by the way can I keep
those
diamond cuffs you
bought me?”
This
is after two years
of dating which included us meeting each
other’s
parents and attending family events together.
I took the
cuffs back
of course
- Liz
“Break-ups are hard for anybody, but it's
particularly tough when it's being
documented and you see the person's
picture everywhere. Most people don't have
that added problem when they break
up
with someone.
