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Mama told me that my wedding dress shouldn't be black: Healing your broken heart in 30 days paperback

To celebrate my newly published relationship book titled, Mama told me my wedding dress shouldn’t be black I will like to extract some passages. Please note that this excerpt is copyrighted.

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You met through a relative or in the subway or maybe you have grown up together. It was love at first sight or you took your time to make sure that it was for ‘real’. You were smitten with each other, you could not stay away from each other and when you did you could not wait to be with each other – you could see your story along the Cinderella themes or even much better you could not wait to tell your great-grandchildren how you met. You were well-matched and everyone said so and then the impossible happened – he told you that he is breaking up with you. You world Shatters!

In the next days, weeks, months or even years (now you need to move on) you crave and grieve for that relationship – you are lovesick.

No one ever said that relationships are perfect for if they were, then we will all be living in fairytales. If you get into a romantic relationship, then expect that it will come with the good and the bad but if you believe that the relationship is of great value to the both of you then it is important to work more on the good than focusing on the bad.

Sometimes people throw in the towel in a valuable and significant relationship because they had tended to put a focal point on each other’s flaws. Listen, no one is perfect and to tell you the truth, the ‘perfect’ you will definitely drive most people to insanity so just be you and try to enjoy your relationship as best as you can. Then again, we are not saying show off your repellent behaviour such as picking your nose and say that’s you being yourself – hey, some things you have to keep them between your eyes and brain. Gross!

Grief is a normal part of the process to healing but depression is not. Depression is an extreme level of grief where the victim feels emptiness and sadness. It is always good to express how you feel and avoid repressing it as this might backfire. Remember, the breakup does not define you so do not give up on the prosperity of loving again in future. Do not try and reconstruct your past relationship with your current or potential relationships as this will frustrate you and hold you back. It is important to move on otherwise you would get stuck in the past with life passing you by and if you ever wake from the self-condemnation, you might live in regret of the time you have wasted which you will never get back.

Deal Breaker

He dumped me on x-mas eve then the following day

I saw him with my neibourbor’s daughter - young enough to be his daughter.

-Gail

He made a resolution for the New Year, he was making a lot of changes in his life and apparently I was one of the changes.

Thuto

He broke up with me through Facebook, this is what he posted

on his profile: “You need to know by now  that I never intended for our relationship to be exclusive but that’s the feeling I’m getting from you.

Sorry you can’t  tame a wild lion… Or by the way can I keep those diamond cuffs you bought me?”

This is after two years of dating which included us meeting each

other’s parents and attending family events together.

 I took the cuffs back of course

- Liz

“Break-ups are hard for anybody, but it's

particularly tough when it's being

documented and you see the person's

picture everywhere. Most people don't have

that added problem when they break up

with someone.  

                                                                   Winona Ryder”

Benefits of Reading

The 21^st century – it’s the era of smart, affordable and dependably (mostly) technology in the forms of computers, Internet, video games, cellphones and televisions.

The 21^st century – it’s the period ruled by digital gadgets.

But what about reading? What happened to getting a paperback and enjoy the contents within? What happened to parents reading to their children before they go to sleep? What happened to girls being absorbed in the ‘chick flick’ kind of novels (remember Sweet Valley Twins)? What happened to the young boys (and men too) mesmerised by the action books? Of course, we know the ‘verbal skill’ in comic books is limited to few numbers of words but hey, it does count. Most people are either addicted to video games, watching television or the internet and this result in them having little or no time at all for reading.

The Answer! Technology happened!

Television broadcasting soapies every night and all the action you get from the animations, reality shows (full of falsify events) and video games that small children as little as four years old are mastering, many people do not see the benefit of reading at all. However, reading has proven to be of much of assistance to people who has taken it as hobby as it advances their vocabulary, develop their thinking scope and awareness of the world around them.

How Reading can benefit you

• ·         Reading enhances an individual’s knowledge and helps them to grasp intelligence that can assist them in making informed decisions in various circumstances of life.

• ·         Reading requires the use of one’s brain and therefore keeps it in excellent form.

• ·         Grows an individual’s imagination. Carry out this experience: take an age appropriate book with pictures and read to a toddler (a sibling or relative if there is no small children in your family then volunteer at the local library), in the middle of the story ask the child if they can make up the story ending and you might be surprised. This should be done with a child that have been consistently been read to every night (or day if you are volunteering at the library) for two months.

• ·         Some ignorant people still believe that Africa is only full of wild animals and its inhabitants still wear animal skins for clothing – yeah, makes you wonder. Reading can help in getting rid of misconceptions from ancient folklores and myths regarding other people’s traditions and can aid in people understanding and accepting that we are all different and special in different ways and accepting each others’ culture.

• ·         How many influential speakers are habitual readers? Almost all of them. Imagine that you are asked to give a speech about a much unknown tribe living in the forest of Amazon – what are the chances that the information will come naturally to you or that you already know someone with that information heaped in their brain? None. You are probably going to Google the information and that means you have to read it either electronically or from the tradition manner. A good orator is 50% made of absorbing written information and the rest to good vernacular and to confidence; it will be of no use to be great in verbal communication and be ignorant at the same time on any subject.

• ·         Reading requires concentration and focus from the reader and if an individual is a constant reader, their mind will eventually be trained to be more attentive and focused in life in general. Devoted readers tend to remain calm and their perception of life is objective and thus making them excellent decision makers.

Now make sure that you make it a habit to read now and then if you are not already doing that and if reading is a hobby for you, then keep up the good work. Let’s be practical here, if you currently spend long hours in front of the television or computer then it is not going to be easy to make swift change so it best to take one step at a time – one day reading might come as your first choice for entertainment.  

Really? Are you sure you’re not Dyslexic? Symptoms of Dyslexia

Symptom is a sign of existence of disability or disease. It can be physical or mental. The symptoms of dyslexia various in each individual, it may be noted that people with dyslexia usually have intelligence or even high IQ. People with dyslexia may have difficulty in speaking and listening as they incur difficulty in pronouncing word – more particularly words with more than one syllable.

 

It may prove difficult for a person with dyslexia to repeat or even get the meaning of spoken phrases. Another symptom can be problems or the inability in expressive language and this might lead the victim dyslexic person to reverse parts of words or even the whole word when reading them aloud, for instance the word ‘alive’ might be read as ‘ailve’.

Mirror writing can be one of the symptoms – a dyslexic person may completely reverse the letters of the words. People with dyslexia mighty problem with following simple instructions and this is usually mistaken for stubbornness in their part. Dyslexic people may have difficulty in grasping the main or important points from a read comprehensive. Dyslexics usually encounter problems with metaphors, rhymes, similes, synonyms and idioms.

Is Dyslexia ‘Racial’?

Dyslexia affects people of all races. Being dyslexic does not mean one lacks in intelligence department and therefore should not be confused with reading retardation which may results from mental retardation. The effects of dyslexia differ from one person to another but the fact is, people with this disability are able to read at level considerable lower than the average person in their age group for example a 16 year-old suffering from dyslexia may have reading level of a 10 year-old.

Studies have indicated that most children with learning disabilities have dyslexia and it is more common in boys than girls.

Famous People with Dyslexia

Having dyslexia does not condemn one to life of misfortune. Many of the most celebrated and talented people have had dyslexia or had attributes associated with dyslexia. Below are but a few of these gifted individuals who had dyslexia learning mannerisms:

Actors & Entertainers:
• Orlando Bloom 
• Tom Cruise 
• Whoopi Goldberg 
• Jay Leno 
• Keanu Reeves. 
• Vince Vaughn

Inventors & Scientists:
• Alexander Graham Bell.
• John Britten, Inventor.
• Pierre Curie, Physicist (1903 Nobel Prize).
• Thomas Edison.
• Albert Einstein.
• Carol Greider, Molecular Biologist, awarded 2009 Nobel Prize in Medicine.

Artists, Designers & Architects:
• Leonardo da Vinci - the name rings the bell right?
• Ignacio Gomez - Muralist
• Tommy Hilfiger - Designer
• Ian Marley - South African Contemporary Artist
• Pablo Picasso - No introduction needed
• Jørn Utzon - the guy who designed the Sydney Opera house

Musicians & Vocalists:
• Cher - if you wondering where she is now, she just got married...
• John Lennon 

Athletes:
• Muhammad Ali - World Heavyweight Champion Boxer
• Duncan Goodhew - Olympic Swimmer
• Diamond Dallas Page - World Wrestling Champion
• Nolan Ryan, Baseball Pitcher.
• Jackie Stewart - race car driver

Entrepreneurs & Business Leaders:
• Richard Branson,Founder of Virgin Enterprises.
• John T Chambers,CEO of Cisco Systems.
• Henry Ford - Ford?
• William Hewlett - Co-Founder, Hewlett-Packard (HP brand)
• O.D. McKee - McKee Foods, founder
• David Neeleman -jetBlue Airways, CEO
• Ted Turner - Turner Broadcasting Systems, President
• Robert Woodruff - Coca-Cola, President (1923-1954)
• Frank W. Woolworth

Overcoming Dyslexia

Many people experience difficulty with reading. Reading has proven to be hard for some people, not because they are lazy or not smart enough. For example, a person can have trouble reading but be good in handiwork. Reading requires the brain to identify patterns of characters and be able to interpret their meaning. This is a simple yet unique process that links the eye (or finger for Braille reading) and the brain but might seem like a complex task for a dyslexic person. This might be because of dyslexia which is basically a learning disability that changes how the brain processes graphic symbol. As much as it might take time for a person with dyslexia to develop good reading skills, it is not all hopeless. Here are few tips to kick-start you to vocabulary:

• ·         Start small: At this time, put that Stephen King novel you’ve been dying to read - you do not want overwhelm yourself. Find a newspaper article, children’s book (get free books here), or short story to read.

• ·         Picture makes for Imagination: News articles and children’s’ books normally have pictures to accompany the story. Start by looking at the picture and try and interpret the story behind the picture without reading the words first. This will help in seeding curiosity in your mind to find out the ‘exact’ story as it uses what is called critical thinking.

• ·         Read + Sound make a Word: Read out loud. At first it might seem awkward and uncomfortable but the more you read sound loud the words the more you hear a recognisable word coming from your mouth.  Try to sound out each letter of the alphabet and letter combination – each letter has its own sound. There are many programs such as Time 4 Learning, Nessy Learning Programme and SEN Teacher that teach reading comprehension, phonics, grammar and punctuation.

• ·         Simple is the Best: Read the book title, the story heading first as they are usually written in larger print than the content.

• ·         Slow does it: We do not want you to get frustrated remember? Take your time with each word – don’t rush. Reading quickly or simply put, skim reading (link to Wikipedia) would not help you to understand the content meaning as you more likely to skip some words and up with story that does not make sense and this on its own is a recipe for frustrated mind. Rather savour each word as you read it, leave the Marathon to Wilson Kipsang (Current Marathon world record holder) – it does not matter how long it takes, what matters is how much you understand from the content.

• ·         The silent yet ‘vocabularious’ (seriously this word doesn’t exists in the dictionary so stop scratching your lovely head) companion: Use the dictionary to check for meaning of words you don’t understand.

• ·         Word Meaning: Sometimes words or phrases can be difficult to understand so rather use the dictionary or Word programs such as Microsoft Word to check for the other available word or phrase. This word or phrase is called synonym, it shares the same meaning as the other word/phrase e.g.  shut is the synonym of close.

• ·         Reread: If the word seems to difficult or after finishing a sentence you still don’t grasp the meaning of its content, read the word or sentence again until you can manage to read it without stuttering or better you get its meaning.

• ·         Jiggle words: If you keep skipping words or lines then it’s better to use your finger as a pointer so your eyes can focus on the line you are reading.

• ·         Double Meaning: Some words may be written the same but with different meaning. This will require you to use context clue – figuring out the meaning of a word looking at how the word was used in a sentence. E.g. 1. They were accommodated by our neighbour in her vacant backroom.  2. She accommodated his rude behaviour for the sake of peace.   In the first sentence the word accommodated means to provide lodge or room whilst in the second sentence it means to compromise one’s position or feelings or well-being.

• ·          Read and read and read some more: Now that we have finished reading our article/book, take another article/book and read. Remember practice makes perfect. Once you are able to read a whole sentence without difficult you can move to the next level this include high school novella (short novel or narrative story) and before you know it you’ll be reading your Stephen King and there will be no stopping you.

Tips:

• If you get tired whilst reading, take a break then come back when you feel relaxed.

• Look for a quiet place with less or better yet no distraction; a good candidate will be a school or public library.

• Remember; reading is meant to be fun so have as much fun as you can.

• Never ever be embarrassed to ask for help from a caring relative or your local librarian.

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