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22 December 2014

Catcalls are not Compliments

Days ago I went to a local mall to do some shopping. As I was walking in the shopping centre, a group of young men (how I wish I could call them gentlemen but they were far cry from that) walking behind me started to give me catcalls. I ignored them and kept on walking but unfortunately the catcalls did not stop, as a matter of fact people started to stare at me so I decided to do the only thing that I thought will save me from further embarrassment I was forced to endure - I slowed down to allow them to pass me by. As they passed, one of them took hold of my left arm and did the Jason Derulo’s Wiggle line on me (Now I don’t have anything against Derulo, as matter of fact, I'm his fan.); and he said, “Damn, gal you have bright future behind you.” Hearing that, I saw red; in my mind I was puffing my chest. If there is anything I can’t stand is a situation whereby a woman is demeaned and worse still, when that woman happens to be me! - I felt so degraded. So what did I do? I gave the guy my most sincere smile, looked him in the eyes and said, “Too bad I can’t say the same about you but then again you wouldn’t know what to do with it!” His response: “Why you tripping, I was only paying you compliment.” I don’t know which was worse for him; his so-called friends laughing at him or me turning the table on him. Of course, I could have brushed off their comments but all it would have done was to put me under further objectification. This incident made me reflect on what women go through every day - Violence Against Women (VAM).

9 December 2014

Botswana: Africa's Shining Star

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GABORONE, BOTSWANA - The just released Transparency International (TI)Corruption Perceptions Index (CPI) 2014 has ranked Botswana as the least corrupt country in Africa for the 19th year in a row. Since 1995, the anti-corruption group TI releases its annual CPI which has been a vehicle in bringing out the international issues of corruption in public sectors to light. It has prompted governments to heed to the corruption subject and put it on the international policy agenda.
The 2014 Corruption Perceptions Index shows that economic growth is undermined and efforts to stop corruption fade when leaders and high level officials abuse power to appropriate public funds for personal gain...
Corrupt officials smuggle ill-gotten assets into safe havens through offshore companies with absolute impunity,... Countries at the bottom need to adopt radical anti-corruption measures in favour of their people. Countries at the top of the index should make sure they don’t export corrupt practices to underdeveloped countries.”
José Ugaz, the chair of Transparency International.

4 December 2014

Women and Girl Child Empowerment Post the 9th African Regional Conference of the BDPfA (Beijing +20)

ADDIS ABABA, ETHIOPIA – Almost twenty (20) years after the adoption of the Beijing Declaration and Platform for Action (BDPfA) by the United Nations’ 189 member states at the Fourth World Conference on Women (Beijing, China, 1995), the Declaration is still a powerful tool to be recognised.* It has enabled and compelled its members to address the challenges faced by all women and to swiftly respond to those challenges in order to assist in the development of women. Each Member State that espoused the Platform for Action committed itself towards advancement of gender equality, peace and empowerment goals for all women.
The governments of Member States have carried out regular reviews of the BDPfA progress every five years; Beijing +5 held in 1999, Beijing +10 (2004), Beijing +15 and they are currently in embarked in the preparation for Beijing +20 review to be held in March 2015.
The Declaration has been described as “the most progressive blueprint ever for advancing women’s rights.”

3 December 2014

Africa: Cry the Beloved Continent

In Africa, corruption by the people in high powers seems to be a thing of a norm. Many years since the end of colonisation of the last country in Africa and the Scrabble for Africa, the Africans are still colonised and enslaved and this time by their own kind; fellow Africans. Most of African countries are said to be democratic but what is democracy if the people who vote are looted by the very people they put in power- the people they have entrusted with their well-being? A study in 2002 by African Union (AU), estimated that the continent loses approximately $150 billion of its revenues to corruption annually.
Politics have always been said to be dirty games but this couldn't be far from the truth when observing what most political figures and government officials are dishing out to their fellow men. During campaigns and rallies, the candidates usually make lots of promises (most of them unrealistic) to the citizens of their countries and once they are voted into power, they start to load their pockets with ill-gotten riches, forgetting all about their voters and only to remember them when their tenures come to end and they start to lobby for votes from them. Most of them are driven by greed and poverty to exploit their countrymen. They want to enrich themselves before they can concentrate on the interest of the people. Corruption is a transgression against the development of the continent as it hampers the much needed progress of the Mother continent. What makes this issue even more absurd is the fact that most of the perpetrators are usually granted impunity from the law.

21 November 2014

Success is For You Too

Awaken the Giant in You

We all have will-power; we never run of it, we just don’t practice all the time.

20 November 2014

Minor Straight Talk

To Her:

You cry a lot, you say you wonder if he really loves you - gal, that man loves you so... the problem is that you keep tripping over petty things. How you gonna explain him dissing his boys for you every time you call on him? How you gonna explain him sticking up for you whenever you turn into the drama queen you are always prone to be? Your friends keep telling you how you feel...C'mon Ma... give him a break...

The thing is, you keep bringing the 90's problems into the 2000's...

To Him:

Hommie, you're partially to be blamed for the mess you're in coz with you the truth is always cheap and other times you are simply allergic to the truth. She doesn't need your Visa nor your riches... Ain't you tired of the game... The tyres don't make the wheels... You stash but she ain't like that - she's willing to trade it all.
You say you're her king... (pause)... Dude how you gonna be a king without a queen?

Well, my advice is free so take it or leave it... after all I ain't getting paid by the hour... (Deuce)

14 August 2014

Street-smart Mind-set of Succeeding in Life*

Some people like to settle in the state of mind whereby they believe they have the ‘potential’ and the idea of exploring those potentials might frighten them from taking any step because they believe that once they do so then that chapter of ‘having potentials’ might close and they will have no story to tell anymore. What they don’t realise is that the end of each chapter means a fresh start of the next undiscovered, captivating chapter and that the end of the last chapter means a brand new book to unearth. No one can ever run out of their potential, once you discover your full ability to do something you start to learn that you could actual reach for newer heights with each step you take. This theory is based on the fact that, if for one moment you start to believe that you have reach all your full potentials in life and there is nothing new to add to that then you stop dreaming and lose the touchstone of your personality.
Our minds are loaded with the Don’ts that often times we fail to see the Do’s that can catapult us to greater achievements. You could put two people in the same environment with same opportunities and obstacles; the other person might take the opportunities given to him and use them to succeed and take the obstacles as learning path whilst the second person on the other hand might approach all the opportunities with fear and escalate all the obstacles that he faces. He will rather choose to fill his mind with counterproductive and negative thoughts that he end up scaring himself off of his potential best.
We can either choose to let our minds to rule us with their stratagem or we can choose to guide and challenge our minds to build us up and empower us by feeding it positive thoughts at all times. At first it might sound like hard work to purify our thoughts from second-to-second basis but rather than taking this process as some boring chores that need to be done with, visualise yourself in the state that you’d like to see yourself in, the wealth that you want to accumulate and declare to yourself those feelings you are experiencing are the results that you will wake up to and enjoy each and every day if you train your mind to be your valuable companion. Always focus on being your own coach and master the game of success.

1 August 2014

Women Dictionary for Men - A Guy's Guide to decoding What Women Really Mean Now on Sale!

here is my new book, I so hope you like it:

List Price: $7.99
5.5" x 8.5" (13.97 x 21.59 cm) 
Full Color on White paper
30 pages
ISBN-13: 978-1500631321 (CreateSpace-Assigned) 
ISBN-10: 1500631329 
BISAC: Self-Help / Communication & Social Skills

We all have experienced the fury of a woman being it a mother, sister, girlfriend, wife, friend or a stranger and when a woman is angry, the universe halts – oh, yes it does. If somehow the person she is angry with is close to her heart then they are in the worst possible calamity that they could find themselves in as she would rather concentrates on being angry with them than try to explain why she is mad at them. Women are intuitive people; they usually know when something is wrong with someone close to them and are mindful of small things that mean a lot to them (she will easily remember the doctor’s appointment that you mentioned to her weeks ago in passing).

What men don’t get is, women expect the same thing from their better halves. It is not that they want you to read their minds, no, they simply want you to be sensitive to their feelings and say correct things or act in the most appropriate manner at most time – of course we know how ‘difficult’ it is for you to keep up. An understanding to a woman’s mind is like a rare and delightful joyride; it is like hitting a home-run and if you are one of the few men who have mastered this art then you must by all means cherish it at all-time.

This booklet is for men (and women) who really want to hold conversation with women in their lives without getting lost in translation. If you have been confused by what a woman said then this book is for you. Men are on the other hand, are different species altogether – they always say what is on their mind sometimes louder than they ought to.
We will also like to acknowledge a few (yes, a few) women who do not find it hard to be upfront with their feelings – kudos to you!

This book will help you to understand women better and you never find yourself in difficult situation whenever you hold a conversation with women.

4 June 2014

201 Homemade Beauty Tips and Tricks: Release The Gypsy and Belle in You

I have just finished the manuscript for my next book titled, 201 Homemade Beauty Tips and Tricks: Release The Gypsy and Belle in You and I hope to present it to you in few weeks'time...

Here is a cover design draft idea:

Courtesy of Amazon Createspace cover creator...

30 April 2014

My Many Questions Regarding Success

Success... What is it? What's in the name?

I have lot of questions that I really would love to know their answers in regard to success and they include simple questions that every 'average' person should ask in order to be successful:
  • How do you measure success? 
  • What is the difference between a successful and unsuccessful person?
  • What must one priorities in order to be successful?
  • When does success become ego?
  • What is the limit of success?
  • Can one still be successful even in their death?
  • Can success be materialized?
  • Why is that other people can be successful in everything they do or touch whilst others seem to destroy everything around them?
  • How did these people achieve their success:
  1. Ludwig Beethoven;
  2. Auguste Rodin;
  3. Walt Disney; Caruso;
  4. FW Woolworth;
  5. Albert Einstein
  6. Thomas Edison; 
  7. Mother Theresa;
  8. Wolfgang A. Mozart
  9. and many more successful people.
Do these people have secret ingredients they apply or is just simple sheer hard-work that brings success to their lives?

15 April 2014

Weather Pictures of Botswana

Botswana is such a beautiful country with unpredictable weather. Gotta love the pictures (I'm an amateur though)


The Sun, the cloud and the rays

Floods in Serule river

Shrubs emerged in water

Hate the water- love the scenery


8 April 2014

Inexpensive Homemade Beauty Tips

Looking glamorous and healthy does not always means digging deep inside your pockets. Knowing the tricks of revamping your skin and body is one trick the women back in the days knew about and appreciated. Below are few tricks to look like  A-lister celebs at no or little costs:

You can use red chili pepper to stimulate blood circulation and massage your feet. Pour hot water in a bowl and add dried red chili peppers then soak your feet for 10 minutes. Pat dry them then moisturize.

Use almond oil to remove makeup.

To reduce pores use soy milk by soaking gauze in it and then apply it to your face then rinse it off an hour before bedtime.

Mix ½ tablespoon of cinnamon with 1 tablespoon of honey. Apply the paste onto your face and leave it for 25-30 minutes.

Use green tea as an astringent to alleviate the pimples. Pour green tea into ice maker and rub the ice cubes onto the affected area 3-4 times a day.

To eliminate blackheads and to control oil in your oily face, mix nutmeg with buttermilk cream to make paste. Rinse your face then apply your homemade exfoliator to your face in gentle, light and circular motions for 5 minutes. Rinse well with warm water.

Rub plain white toothpaste to a zit overnight to dry it out. Avoid toothpaste made from gel.

Am I alive: My Books and Works

Am I alive: My Books and Works: Introduction to the Internet Components - World Wide Web and Email  * Authored by Thato Gaboitsiwe   The book covers two of the Internet...
Dearest Reader

I'll like to take this space to sincerely apologize for my absence. There have been some personal changes in my life that have consumed my time but from now on, I will dedicate my time to publish new stuff (network willing)on this blog.

Thank you for your understanding.

Breakups... (Continued)

Breakups can sometimes be messy and at other times be inevitable, but one thing certain about most breakups, is that they cause pain if not numbness followed by ache even if the end of relationship was to be expected. It is usually hard to pick up the pieces of a broken heart (note the word hard) but with time, all the pieces if worked on with patience can fall into place. Even if you have initiated the move, it does not make the stab of the breakup ache any less, just knowing he simply would not be there for a chat, a rushed cup of tea or the occasional sexy arguments it’s a tribulation on its own.  After the breakup, you may experience roller coaster of emotions which include pain, anger and sadness and this is normal but it does not mean that you should wallow in them.

No one ever said that relationships are perfect for if they were, then  we will all be living in fairytales. If you get into a romantic relationship, then expect that it will come with the good and the bad but if you believe that the relationship is of great value to the both of you then it is important to work more on the good than focusing on the bad.

Sometimes people throw in the towel in a valuable and significant relationship because they had tended to put a focal point on each other’s flaws. Listen, no one is perfect and to tell  you the truth, the ‘perfect’ you will definitely drive most people to insanity, so just be you and try to enjoy your relationship as best as you can. Then again, we are not saying show off your repellent behaviour such as picking your nose and say that’s you being yourself – hey, some things you have to keep them between your eyes and brain. Gross!